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  • "Sometimes I'd like to ask God why He allows poverty, famine, and injustice in the world when He could do something about it...but I'm afraid God might ask me the same question."
    -Anonymous

    Welcome and thanks for stopping by. We are a family of six who have been gripped by the orphan crisis in the world. Join us as we explore orphan care, adoption, justice and rescue. Freely we have been given and now freely we give. Matthew 10:8. As a community we can bring life, hope, redemption and a voice to those who need it most through the teachings and knowledge of Christ.

    The call to adopt was planted in our hearts several years ago and we are so grateful for the journey to our amazing daughter from Ethiopia. God has opened our eyes and our hearts and as a family we are striving to use our time, talents, energy and equipment to be the hands and feet to others.

    We do all kinds of wild and crazy at our house so there is rarely a dull moment. I hope this blog will inspire you to BE THE CHANGE in some way be it big or small. All it takes is helping to change the world for one to have made a BIG impact in the world! Please subscribe or comment. I would love to hear from you.

Such Beauty in Baptism…

Today was such a special Mother’s Day. We baptized Ava and seeing her at age two taking it all in was beyond words. She really did seem to know something was up. All week we have been talking and praying with Ava about what would be happening today and she loved calling it “put water on head day.” We had to tell her all about the water as we had no idea how she would react. Having only ever baptized infants it was very special to see her not move a muscle and to stare deep into the eyes of our pastor while he was placing the water on her head and face. She loved it and with a stillness and a calm sweetness she took it all in as of she sensed the holy spirit entering her life. She even quietly sang Jesus Loves Me in her sweetest voice while in the arms of our pastor. She sparkled and shined and we felt God’s great love encircle our family throughout the service. Ava you are such a joy and a blessing and on this Mother’s Day I am grateful for the gift of my children.

These pictures are priceless. Thank you to my  dear friend who snapped away during the service. I absolutely love how her brothers are looking at her while she is being baptized… such pure love!

 

 

 

 

He tends His flock like a sheperd. He gathers the lambs in His arms and carries them close to His heart. He gently leads those who have young. -Isaiah 40:11

Happy Mothers Day to all the beautiful mothers in the world!

Peace and Grace,

Melanie

Karla Marie - May 14, 2012 - 7:19 am

Congratulations to your family & Ava! So precious! The pics are awesome :)

Eric - May 14, 2012 - 7:55 am

Well done good and faithful parents!!

Jen - May 14, 2012 - 8:53 am

Beautiful photos of a beautiful rite. Very happy for you!

This Mother’s Day…

For several days now we have been telling Ava all about what happens tomorrow. She will be baptized and we are so anxious to see how she responds since she is two. She keeps showing us how the water will flow down her head and she gives us the big eyes and asks, “water cold Mommy?” I can’t wait to bask in the moments of the water flowing freely down her hair and face and the profession we give to raise Ava in a home where we as a family seek to glorify Him. Even cooler still is that our boys are now old enough to better understand the meaning and the beauty of baptism. They are excited and with the ways they interact so sweetly with their baby sister I just know they will also find it to be a very memorable and precious moment in Ava’s life and all of our lives.

Ava reminds me daily that adoption has always been God’s great design. He showed us adoption into His Kingdom as a way to protect the lonely and honor the broken and the lost in all of us. God shows us that we never walk alone when we put our trust and faith in him. He adopts us as His own. So every day I think of the favor God showed in sparring Ava’s life and bringing her to us. I think of the birth mother whose circumstances I will never totally understand who had the courage to carry her baby to term. Ava is a special little one who sparkles her way through most days, engaging with others and showing us every day that her life was meant to be. What we always want Ave to know is how loved she is by God. No matter her past or her future she is sacred and her life redeemed in HIM. It’s such an awesome message of hope and love and her baptism on Mother’s Day sure does seem appropriate and very meaningful to us all. I am richly blessed to be the mother to all four of my children.

But wait… there is more… Tickets are booked and in just over four weeks I will be headed back to Ethiopia to see our precious Tadesse again (Happy Mother’s Day to me). I can hardly wait to hug him and hang out with him sharing smiles and lots of stories over the best 25 cent Ethiopian coffees under the trees. I am returning to Ethiopia for an appointment with the Ethiopian government that must happen in order for Tadesse’s Visa to be approved. He has to have a Visa to board the plane so this is the next step. We are not technically adopting him but we might as well be. In fact my heart already has as he is my own no matter what ocean or government documents stand between us. If you want to know more about the story of Tadesse please click here. It may be tough to understand but once you have seen what I have seen and learned what I now know about the ways in which children grow up in third world countries, well it changes everything. The radical changes in our lives have helped us to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that the boy I met in Korah should have a family to love him and guide him toward a bright future. He is a strong faith filled boy and we cannot wait to embrace him in every way we can. After all, for me that is what being a Mother is all about and frankly I wish I could love and protect, nurture and honor many more children who face evils and great horrors in their lives every day. Pick me God and help me to be a strong spirit filled Mother both right where I am here in my home and abroad to the spectacular places you continue to send me. This is my daily prayer.

Tomorrow we will be missing this guy and sure wishing he were here to celebrate the baptism of his beautiful little sister. We will miss you and thank you for allowing me to be your Mother. I am richly blessed to have five kiddos who call me their own.

To all the beautiful Mothers I know both far and wide, have a happy Mother’s Day. Take a few minutes to cherish the gift of your children. God has entrusted their hearts to our care and that is truly amazing. Enjoy!

Peace and Grace,

Melanie

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Adoption Rocks {saying yes again…}

Two of my kiddos had well check visits with our wonderful pedicatrician last week. Ava was in rare bubbly form and from the moment she entered the waiting room she was in the face of other littles saying”Hi.” She is not shy, this one, and we are gonna have to watch her every move as she ages. She is little miss curious and lights up any ole space she enters. Several of the nurses had not yet met Ava. Fortunately, we have been quite healthy since she came home, so they were watching her every move. Our doctor,  a close family friend,  and I were beaming from ear to ear as we recalled the many milestones we have been through with each of my kids. After two kids I simply never saw myself with three and now I am the proud Momma of  four. It makes me chuckle to know what we have been through and all that is yet to come as we raise up four people to the very best of our ability.  Still I go back to the words that constantly echo in my head even in the middle of the crazy chaos that is our family {bring your ear plugs or a megaphone if you are gonna join us for dinner}. The words are actually a prayer, “Thank you God for not allowing us to miss this.” I mean what if we had missed this?

What if we had never met this sweet baby girl who is smart, charming, silly and so loving in one little brown eyed big haired bundle? What if we had called it a day knowing that we had our hands full with a challenging five year old at the time? What if the not knowing and fears had trumped the trust and the faith we needed to have in order to jump through the many hoops it requires to adopt?

During our appointment I was telling our doctor and staff how clear it is that we were sent to Ethiopia for far more than just our daughter. It’s crazy all the connections and the deep love and intense desire we feel to help in and connect to Ethiopia. God continues to connect the dots of other families, ministry partners, solutions and children who wait in Ethiopia. This journey is nothing short of miraculous and one only mighty God could orchestrate. Now nearly two years after seeing Ava’s little face in a picture for the very first time, we are saying yes again.

Tadesse

This time the child is a teenager and many will call us completely mad for taking on such a challenge.  Yes, it’s a wild idea but that is the best part!  Things may go awry or be very challenging and we know that, but after meeting our dear Tadesse in the slums of Addis Ababa on our very first trip and watching him soar with the first opportunity he had to go to school, we want to give him the chance to continue to shine. Doors have opened, one after another, since I spent nearly a week with him during my trip this past February, and our hearts are so full and so ready to say yes once more. Adoption changed everything in us and through us and  God has given us the courage and a yearning to do more. Our adoption of Ava lead us to a country where the opportunites are sparse and children of every age wish they had family who could love, comfort and provide for them.

Tadesse has been accepted at a nearby school and the school helped to create the Visa paperwork needed to move ahead with the process of praying that the governement will approve him coming here.  It will look a lot like us sponsoring a foreign exchange student for a year or two of study. It will feel like we are bringing home another child who is nearly grown up, to join our family. Our kids actually think that we are adopting him and they can’t be bothered to understand the difference.  It means shifting prioroties again and questioning how we will do as a family of seven but we are trustung God with those details. He will bring us through that which He has brought us to!

In June I will be headed back to Ethiopia to meet with the Government to share our hearts and Tadesse’s amazing story. We will discuss his outstanding character and why he deserves the opportunity to continue school. Many families and missionaries who have worked through the Project 61 organization, the one through which we were able to sponsor Tadesse to move out of the trash dump and into the boarding school,  have connected with us to share their encouraging thoughts about who Tadesse is and what he does to inspire and mentor many of the younger students at the boarding school. I should mention that Tadesse will complete the boarding school in just four weeks at the very top of his class.  Tadesse is a survivor and true champion of spreading kindness and love. He has seized the opportunity to become educated and now wants to study medicine so he might further help in his country some day. He has fallen in love with our family as his own and looks so forward to having siblings and two parents who cannot wait to nurture him. We feel the same.

Here is Tadesse wearing the Be the Change tshirt. His life has changed dramatically since being at boarding school for two years!

I share all this for several reasons…

First of all, when I return to Ethiopia in June if the government approves Tadesse’s Visa then he will be eligible to fly back with us to begin his new adventure. We want to make everyone aware just in case we have an even bigger family in tow!

Secondly, we are asking for prayers of support as our family moves through this process.

Lastly, we want to share with you an opportunity to be a part of Tadesse’s future and to help us bring him home.  For so long Tadesse lived in the trash dump of Korah, alone, hungry, lost and surviving moment to moment.

This is how many people survive each day in Korah, Ethiopia. They dig through garbage for food and items to sell.

We pray that he will never have to return to such circumstances again.  Many have been asking how they can be a part of Tadesse’s story, so we will be raising funds to support Tadesse’s airfare and private education for two years. Tadesse will be arriving with little more than the clothes on his back. We look so forward to providing for him, making one less orphan in the world. and we welcome anyone to come alongside us in creating a hope and a future for this precious boy! Click on the donate button if you wish to help.

Thank you for your open and listening heart. For us this has been a long journey and we are so thrilled to finally be sharing the deatails with you, friends, family and blog readers. We are open to any questions.

Peace and Grace in the week ahead,

Melanie

 

 

Jill Daniels - April 30, 2012 - 11:36 pm

I LOVE THIS and love your song in the background. I would love to do this for a child. Adoption has forever changed our lives too!

Karla - April 30, 2012 - 11:49 pm

Speechless and in tears! God bless your family and Tadesse! You will be happy to know we just decided to adopt 3 more children this year! I will now be a mommy of 6 via adoption!

ememby - May 1, 2012 - 9:06 am

So excited to be hearing this story again and that you are able to share it now! Cannot wait to see what God has in store for you all!

Michele Thorson - May 1, 2012 - 2:28 pm

from this family of seven to yours…we are SO happy for you!

David Tadele Dawit - May 1, 2012 - 2:35 pm

Melanie thanks for this real and amazing story! For the korah garbage are i’m the witness that is how much it was difficult to live there! May God help you and bless you!

Jenn Gregory and family - May 1, 2012 - 6:19 pm

Amazing! What a blessing. Praying and supporting you all the way!!

Denise - May 2, 2012 - 10:24 pm

Melanie,
I’m so excited for you! Praise our heart-changing God! We adopted a 15-year-old girl from Russia 1-1/2 years ago just four months before she would have aged our of the system. By God’s grace, Daria is doing BEAUTIFULLY! My husband and I have a very special, dear bond with her even though we’ve known her for such a short time. May God richly bless you!!!
Denise
http://www.untohimwelive.blogspot.com

Mary Lee - May 3, 2012 - 2:06 am

I share your heart for Ethiopia, and for the older boys there that adoption is not an option for any longer. And your boys are right – no point in getting too wrapped up in the details. A young man half a world away can become a son and a big brother with or without papers to prove it! Taste and see that the Lord is GOOD!! He places the lonely in families. God bless your efforts to bring Tadesse home in June.

Courage {Our daughter is almost two}…

This is a hard week. As the mother of three biological children who I nurture and love each day to the best of my ability, I struggle with the the thoughts and the feelings of a woman I do not know who lives across the globe who could not nurture and raise up the daughter she carried in her body for nine months. The word courage sits at the forefront for me and helps me to see through the sadness. She must have had such courage to relinquish her dreams and selflessly give her daughter a chance a different future. In many circumstance’s in Ethiopia there truly are no options and there may have been a forced decision in order for her baby to survive. We do not need to know all the details to know that the pain must have been excruciating. Survival has a completely different meaning for many many people both young and old in Ethiopia and decisions are made daily that are a matter of life and death… the hard gut wrenching choices that many of us may never wrestle with or navigate through.

So I hug my kiddos a bit tighter and I breathe deeper this week as I pray for the biological mother of my daughter. Of course we are so grateful she came to us to grow up with a family to love her but we love Ethiopia and her people too and many days I feel that she could have belonged there too if circumstances could have been different. Looking into the eyes of my brown eyed beauty is so motivating for me. I am motivated by her reminder that so many more children wait for their forever families. I am reminded that so many people living in third world impoverished nations have needs beyond what most of us know. This motivation does not make me point fingers but rather it helps me to point forward in helping others to see where we might all dig in and make a difference. Pray for a nation, learn about the orphan crisis and ways we can all help, sponsor a child in need, attend a lecture on trafficking and the signs to watch for right here at home, discover what it means to mentor or foster a child, give a donation to a family or a organization on the ground who is changing the lives of the least of these. Entering the world of adoption brought us to our knees as we as we learned of the pain so many children endure. The awakening was worth it.

We will celebrate Ava’s second birthday this week and we rejoice in the ooportunity we have been given to raise her up with our family to become a child of God, a sweet, smart, fun little peanut who lives here with a Mother, Father and three brothers who love her dearly. She is not our adopted daughter but just our daughter who came to our lives by way of adoption.  She is as much ours as anything I have ever known and we have to hold back in shouting it from the rooftops that adoption is the most magical and beautiful experience. I must honor and thank the courageous woman who carried Ava to this earth. We have been blessed by your blessing and I will continue to pray that God shows you strength, grace and most of all peace.

off to the ocean...

deep in thought...

 

our precious little bean...

Have  wonderful week!

Melanie

Giving Back in Grand Rapids (Send a GRPS Student to Camp)

I recently received this letter from a friend and love the work being done to come alongside the students of my former high school, Ottawa Hills, here in Grand Rapids. It is no secret that the school and many of it’s students are hurting and are in need of attention, mentorship and discipleship. I know I am not alone in thinking back to our days at Ottawa with fond memories. I remember fondly  that Young Life was a strong force in my faith walk even in high school.  I am still in touch with many OHHS grads and many of us say the same thing… “We should be doing more to help.” Well here is a tangible way to change a life and it sounds like more opportunities are on the horizon as this group is striving to pour into the Grand Rapids student community. “Q” has made a difference in the lives of many children who need a role model. I know him personally and would love to do more to support his efforts with the kids. Please let me know if you have any questions. I realize not everyone may be capable of full sending a child to camp but could you afford to pay a portion of a child’s camp fees? I look forward to hearing your ideas and thoughts.
I wanted to share with you some of the exciting things that are happening at Ottawa and ask you for your help.
Steve Timyan, Mark Stacy and I have come along side Urban Young Life to do three things; one, raise money to support Quentin(Q) Henry, the Urban Young Life Area Director; two, help get 100 students from our urban area to Young Life’s Timber Wolf Camp in Lake City Michigan this summer; and three, help support Academic Upgrade, an exciting three year old after-school program that is trying to raise the academic needle of over 90+ students at Ottawa this academic year.
As you know the student population has changed greatly since you and I attended Ottawa. The white families have left for the suburbs, the black families that can have left to the suburbs or charter schools so we are seeing the poor who have many needs. A high percentage of the students come from families where there is no father in the home. For a multitude of reasons, there are few positive role models who are encouraging students to stay in school, keep up their grades, respect authority and aspire to higher education.  The situation seems almost insurmountable.
The one thing that has remained the same is Young Life is still at Ottawa Hills winning the right to be heard in the lives of high school students. Quentin Henry along with a couple of volunteer leaders have been given open access to love on kids in the name of Jesus. This in itself is remarkable because at our suburban schools where Young Life is flourishing, the name of Jesus is rarely spoken at school. In the City, His name can be openly shared because of the reputation of “Q” and the embrace of Young Life by the Administration.
Academic Upgrade is a voluntary after school program that is coordinated by Mr. James Burress, Mr. Bennet Gay and Quentin Henry. The goal of the program is to help freshman through seniors become academically successful. There is tutoring help,  guest speakers to encourage and motivate, a character based curriculum to teach proper coping skills, along with incentives for working hard, including a year end trip on June 10th to Atlanta Georgia to visit Tennessee State University.
Here is where we need your help. We have committed to raise $40K/year for three years to support Academic Upgrade. Grand Rapids Public Schools is fully supporting this program also with upgrading facilities, staffing and access. Your tax deductible check can be made out to the Student Advancement Foundation at 111 Library NE  Grand Rapids, Mi 49503 or by going to www.grsaf.org and donating online. Susan Heartwell, the Executive Director,  has been doing an incredible job faithfully coordinating support for GRPS in a variety of important areas for many years.
For each student to experience a week at Young Life’s beautiful Timber Wolf Camp this summer in Northern Michigan we will need to raise $350/student.  We want to impact 100 students. Can you support one student? Your check can be made out to Urban Young Life(M 130) – Camper Scholarship and mailed to Urban Young Life at PO Box 68206  Grand Rapids MI or by going to www.urbanyounglife.org  and click on giving.
On behalf of Urban Young Life we would like to invite you to be a part of our team that supports Urban Young Life on a monthly basis.  We want to sustain Urban Young Life so it impacts high school and middle school students for years to come. Let me know if you are interested.
“Why are you asking us?”,  you might be asking. We have come to believe that all of us have a very large stake in the survival of our students and our great City. We can’t sit back and say the problem is to big and not be involved. The problem is big and the rapidity with which it is increasing is alarming but there are solutions. Urban Young Life and Academic Upgrade are two very good solutions.
Would you also be willing to forward this email on to your circle of friends or let me know their emails/numbers and I will be happy to get in touch with them.
Thanks for reading this email and thank you for your past support and concern.
Warmly,
Dave Ellis        Steve Timyan          Mark Stacy
Peace and Grace to you,
Melanie